*flicks sweat off of forehead* , I figured it out, had to go to tools tab and manually restart the upgrade (it was stuck in upgrade mode)...
Now a new problem, when I select program it says...
Reading FLASH input file ... OK!
Setting mode and device parameters... OK!
Entering program mode... FAILED!
Leaving program mode... OK!
As I've seen in other posts, they all get past at least this part before having an error. I've tried all of the different ISP frequencies too...