Problem is i dont know where the power must go,
Then you have to find out. Study the schematic.
If you don't know such a basic thing, you have a very little chance of fixing it, so learn learn learn - you cannot rely on a web board for every tiny issue.
and my probes are a little too big 0.o
Then get, or make, smaller probes - I have yet to see a probe that is too big for even smd though - a point is still a point.
the power light flashes indicating it is getting power, its just not loading the program
That info should have gone into your first post. It indicates that it get some power, but perhaps not enough, so break out the voltmeter and the schematic. Test thorougly around the regulator.