what torque rating should we buy?
Well, this depends on the weight of the assembly itself, once you figure out an approximate weight then we can talk...
Also where could we buy stepper motors, we would rather buy them at a store but we could buy online if we need to.
Although im sure some stores have steppers, i would highly suggest buying them online.
For one, you can get a much larger variety than from a store. Also, the prices tend to be much cheaper.
Does the weight rest on the motor itself or is there another way to set it up so the weight does not rest on the motors?
The weight will be on the motors shaft. There are probably designs to help reduce the amount of weight on the shaft but in most cases it will be able to take it.