joe61 u was right, problem was in reset line(poor soldering). but now im getting
Setting mode and device parameters.. OK!
Entering programming mode.. OK!
Erasing device.. OK!
Programming FLASH .. FAILED!
Leaving programming mode.. OK!
and if i press verify i get
Setting mode and device parameters.. OK!
Entering programming mode.. OK!
Reading FLASH .. OK!
WARNING: FLASH byte address 0x0000 is 0x00 (should be 0x12).. FAILED!
Leaving programming mode.. OK!
were i should change it?