Hi,
Ok so i got all my stuff for my $50 robot i got the schematic i watched a bunch of soldering videos and i run into a problem, its not as easy as it looks. my solder connections aren't that great, they're pretty bubbly
They're a bit hard to judge from the pics (could you post a sharp close up or a cropped pic that only shows a few soldr spots in the full pic?), but they don't look half bad from the little that I
can see. Try using a little less solder though, it seems like they are convex where they should be concave.
and when i try to solder the headers they sometimes melt together and the pins become slanted.
Be careful about how long you hold the iron to a spot.
I usually put a female IDC connector on the pins I am about to solder, this keeps the pins straight.
without a question i suck at soldering but im not sure if its just me
Nah, I bet you didn't walk when newly born either.
It's a good idea to practice both soldering and de-soldering on PCB's from broken discarded equipment.
From the pic however, I think you are doing a pretty good job for a first project and with some practice and a better iron, I'm sure you will do ace work.
You need a "sponge" to wipe the soldering tip before each joint. It quickly becomes a subconscious act to wipe the tip
every time you grab the iron from its stand and to coat it slightly with solder when you put it back (to protect the tip from the oxygen of the air).
Don't fall for the BS that's pushed about the relatively new tip cleaners like this:

They're somewhat abrasive, so will eat away on your tip.
The usual BS used about those is that they don't cool the tip and last forever.
Regular cellulose sponges used correctly doesn't cool the tip! And the "scouring pad" types don't last forever (actually shorter than a well treated cellulose sponge, as the curls get soldered together.
Instead use a regular cellulose pad like this:

This one is upside down however, as the more orange side in this picture is the side that helps keep its shape (many people use the wrong side).
The hole helps, by giving an edge to wipe the tip against, but is not strictly necessary.
There are lots of cheaper substitutes (of the same material). Presently I have gone back to a slice of a sponge used for wiping a slate (after nearly a year of testing the crappy scouring pads)
I have some kitchen pads of the same material and given the name on your photos, you may already have some of the somewhat thin round cellulose sponges used for removing make-up.
Cutting a hole or making a slice halfway towards the center makes any of those into the best soldering sponges.
Keep it moist. That's
moist! Not wet! Just enough to keep it soft and protect it from being burned.
Use demineralized water if you upgrade to something like a Weller, to keep the tip free of limestone and unwanted minerals and you get a huge lifetime from your tips.
So, Cellulose sponge, moist NOT wet, wipe each time you grab the iron (and in-between if you make a series of connections in one go), thin (like 0.8mm/0.03" max.) leaded solder (the very best have a small amount of silver as well), "too little" is just the right amount. Use an IDC connector to hold pins while soldering, do it in the least possible amount of time and remove any excess solder with the de-solder iron you have and perhaps touch up with solder wick, before re-soldering.
Another good substitute is a small slab or sheath of silicone of around 1..2mm in thickness, with a narrow V-groove to wipe the tip in - no water needed, just a holder that holds/stiffens the sheath.
To solder:
Wipe tip and push it against the pin and the pad to solder with just a very slight tip of the solder in between, to wet the tip and transfer the heat better, then apply the appropriate amount (i.e. a little less than you think) of solder from the opposite side. Keep the tip on the joint for a slight bit longer and remove it.
If the joint appears grey or corny, wait for it to cool down and then reapply heat and a tiny amount of solder (or better, just a dab of flux from a flux pen).
Practice, practice and practice - it's an acquired skill.
Clean the tip on the sponge and over it with solder before turning it off (again to protect it from oxygen).
If the copper on the board or the component wires are a bit oxidized, a "glass brush pen" (not sure what they're called) is a good way to get to clean the material.
[...] im using a ".50" diameter high tech 63/37 rosin core solder" from radio shack.
A bit to thick a solder for my taste - this ain't plumbering work after all.
And... 63/37 have a plasticity range of 0° (i.e. it goes from liquid to solid in a split second), which is good for some (other) kinds of soldering, but I very much prefer close to 60/40, which has a plasticity range of around 13°F (slightly different with a few percent of silver).